Do you know how little you control your every action? Every person you interact with is a role model, and each interaction changes your behaviour, mood, outlook and makes you human. But we’re losing this – our capability to be human – through our modern existence. Watch and learn how you can change that not only that for your benefit but for the sake of humanity. … More How Unexpected Role Models Make us Human
On this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast, fellow psychologist Lou Jones and I talk to Russ Harris – best selling author, doctor, therapist and all round lovely guy. https://apple.co/3bSkWls https://spoti.fi/3dHLS8Q https://bit.ly/2WWbmbN Some of Russ’s words of wisdom: “Money can’t buy you happiness – as I transitioned from a medical doctor to a … More Want to know how to be happy – this man has the answers.
We often think of role models as being heroes or heroines, sports stars or world leaders, change-makers or those who are dramatically impacting the world – people who are out of reach and infallible. But in reality, we are surrounded by role-models both good and bad. … More The importance of someone like me
To know yourself you need to know not only how you work, but how your brain works and how you fit into your world. We explore why in this series of posts. … More Self awareness continued – Your Brain & Your World
Do you know you want to move forward but get stuck? Do you get frustrated that you can’t move forward or feel weighed down through fears and a lack of confidence? Some of the key things I’ve seen hold people back time and again are also things that with the right understanding can be worked on. … More What’s getting in the way of your success?
“95% of us think we’re self-aware but in reality research shows it’s more like 10-15% of us who actually are” Dr. Tasha Eurich. Are you self-aware? You may think you are but are you really? … More Self-Awareness (I) – What is it and why does it matter?
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung We all live our life carrying out the majority of behaviours unconsciously every day. Many of these things are habit which the American Journal of Psychology defines as “a more or less fixed way of thinking, … More Making the unconscious conscious
OUT NOW another bitesize episode with fellow psychologist Lou Jones. This week we’re talking about burnout, something that is becoming way to prevalent during the pandemic. What is it? How do you know if you are experiencing it? What should you do about it? Burnout has three key dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism and a decline in … More Talking about burnout
I’ve now recorded 17 episodes, 11 interviews exploring interesting people’s backgrounds and all that makes them tick. Guests include Kenny Wilson CEO of Dr Marten’s, Andrea Thompson Editor in Chief of Marie Claire, Jonathan McMullan Detatchment Commander in the Australian Airforce and many more. There are also 6 bonus tracks with me speaking to fellow … More Dot to Dot Behind the Person
This week is mental health awareness week and the focus is on being kind. But why be kind if we’re trying to look after our own mental health?
Being kind not only benefits those we are kind to but also ourselves. Giving and sharing with others is part of what makes us human and has huge psychological and physiological benefits. Being kind is not just good for the person you’re helping but it’s good for you too. … More #Be Kind
The very first episode of Dot to Dot ‘Behind the Person’ with my friend and mentor Brenda Trenowden CBE. … More Episode 1 of Dot to Dot Behind the Person
This week I’m launching my podcast Dot to Dot Behind the Person. The first two episodes are with my amazing mentor & Global co-Chair of the 30% Club Brenda Trenowden CBE and Editor in Chief of Marie Claire Andrea Thompson. We’re starting with Women’s Empowerment setting the tone. There are many more topics and people … More Launch of Dot to Dot Podcast
Podcasts – why, with all our new-fangled developments do we find what is in essence returning us to the old gramophone days so very appealing. … More Why Podcasts Are Good For the Soul
As an NHS front-line worker you have every reason to be fearful about what’s to come and how you will cope. It’s important to know that in itself is normal and to be expected. Avoiding any of these emotions either now or at a later date will only exacerbate any negative psychological outcomes. Below are … More Coping – Front Line Healthcare Providers
We’re currently facing a very surreal world and an unfamiliar way of life. It’s hard to know what to expect especially from a psychological perspective. In response two psychologists from the University of Manchester have summarised their research looking at people in ICE conditions (isolated, confined and extreme). While not the same the evidence from similar … More Coping with confinement and isolation – Covid 19
Anxiety is normal, it’s something that we all experience and it’s impossible to avoid. It’s really important that teenagers understand this and also that anxiety does not define who they are, it is not part of their personality, it will come and go and we can learn to manage it better. Most of the time … More Helping teens deal with anxiety and Covid-19
At the moment I think it’s fair to say that many of us if not all of us are suffering from anxiety – whether that’s over the unknown, worrying about our loved ones, job, finances, the future…..Added to which a lot of us are stuck at home not able to carry out normal everyday life. … More COVID – 5 Mental Health 5 A Day
Something I wrote a long time ago about love, sex and attraction. Given the complete dominance of my own brain with Covid-19 I thought this may provide some light relief to anyone else like me.
Sexual attraction is – well it’s the source of life and so worth understanding. … More Love, Sex and….
Despite being bonkersly (it’s my word even if it doesn’t exist) driven in general I also put things I don’t like off. On the whole that involves accounting of any sort. I find it dull. At the moment it also includes making edits to my book (sorry publisher). I wouldn’t say I procrastinate, more deprioritise … More Who are you?
When my brother and I were little our Mum seemed to know what we were up to, what was said and done even when she was no where to be seen. This I found a little spooky yet oddly exciting. … More Myths Busted
‘How well do you really know yourself?’ A hugely significant 95% of us think that we’re self-aware, but the reality bears a stark contrast with 10% to 15% actually knowing who we really are … More Knowing You, Knowing Me
Our childhood has a massive impact on who we are as adults and with a huge factors from our early years impacting who we become. It’s worth reflecting on your childhood from time to time to take lessons into your life today whether that is how to live with passion, how to love with an open heart or on a more technical level how certain things influenced who you have become. … More Genius is childhood recaptured
Earlier this year I was interviewed for a piece in DigitalSpy about about social media and our mental health. Following the publication of research by the BBC today showing the rising issue of self-harm I thought I’d share the thoughts that I prepared for my interview. Would you say that there needs to be more … More Is social media destroying our mental health?
In March I was interviewed for a piece in DigitalSpy about reality TV and how it impacts contestants. Following the cancellation of the Jeremy Kyle show this week I thought I’d share the thoughts that I prepared for my interview (link for the article is at the end). … More Fast fame…
Nothing will work unless you do…and yet we’re still not teaching kids how they work. … More Nothing will work unless you do…
Sanity is a myth, none of us are sane, yet insanity feels scary, foreign and a million miles from the life that most of us lead. Insanity conjures up images of mental asylums, white coats, sedated patients, a ‘one flew over the cuckoo’s nest’ hive of panic-stricken individuals. Our 19th and 20th century foray into … More The Myth of Sanity
Giving is not just for Christmas – why it’s good for your health and even your career. … More No One Has Ever Become Poor From Giving
British Psychologist, bestselling author, entrepreneur and speaker. This is my blog sharing ideas, thoughts and research about behaviour.
On International Women’s Day I thought I’d share an extract from my book Mirror Thinking about how important role-models are to enabling positive traction…. ‘The impact of diverse role models reaches far beyond the executive board room. Research from Microsoft, for example, shows that the number of girls interested in STEM decreases as they move … More Why being human means being a role-model